“I learned so much, not just about Indian culture, but also about myself. …I think [study abroad] improves foreign relationships with Americans … because often the only exposure they may have is raunchy TV and cultural stereotypes. It felt sometimes like I was an ambassador. Just to hear different perspectives on your own culture is valuable, too.”
- Kelly Fox, UW–Madison senior, from Wausau, WI
Kelly Fox is a senior with a triple major in religious studies, women’s studies and languages and cultures of Asia. She spent this past summer semester (8 weeks) living and studying in Pune, India. Kelly was the recipient of the Study Abroad Fund Scholarship.
What was your reason for going abroad?
I have always wanted to study abroad! I heard from other students about their experiences. With three majors, it was difficult to schedule during the academic year, so the summer program was perfect.
I am studying South Asia in school and have always been fascinated by the culture of India. I studied the Hindi language briefly and have a concentration in Asian religion. I wanted to experience the culture first hand.
Where did you stay (dorm, apartment, etc.) and what was it like?
I was really lucky to get placed with an awesome host family, and that was one factor that made my visit great. My hosts were an intergenerational family that included a widowed mother, her mother, her adult son and his wife; they wanted to take me everywhere and show me everything. It was really great. I was close to my host mother’s daughter-in-law, who was near my age. We spent a lot of time together.
While you were there did you do an internships, volunteer work, etc.?
I did a directed research project that focused on Hindu revivalism among youth. I spent a lot of time with people my age, looking for general trends in the way young people practice their religion.
What was the most invaluable experience you had in India?
May I give three?!
1) Meeting other students from across the U.S. that were all really passionate about learning a new culture.
2) Living with a host family and getting to experience their culture first hand
3) The 3-day orientation in Durshet before we arrived in Pune. This helped me learn how to appreciate the culture, and provided guidelines for behavioral expectations. Also, I had a chance to recover from jet lag.
What was the most challenging experience you had there? Why?
Gender inequality in general. It’s harder to be female there.
It wasn’t really safe for me to travel alone. I had to be covered all the time, even when it was hot. No public bathrooms for women. Sexual harassment.
I talked to my host family about the caste system. They have a live-in maid who is an untouchable, but they are really good to her. Still, she couldn’t eat with us; she had to eat by herself. The relationship was good but they made sure she knew her place. Almost all poor people and beggars were in the lowest caste. It was hard to see.
As a foreigner, I was outside the caste system, so I experienced the gender inequality more.
What languages did you need there? Do you feel proficient in any other languages than English?
Hindi is the national language. Marathi was the local language. A lot of middle class families use English, which was fortunate for me. I had taken only one semester of Hindi.
How do you think your experiences in India will help you after you graduate? Do you plan on returning there?
The experience helps me to be more reflective about my own culture. Being in India made me realize how critical human rights are. It’s hard to forget about the social issues and injustices. Definitely validated my worldview: women’s rights and human rights issues are important. Coming back I experienced reverse culture shock. Long hot showers are a luxury and privilege that many people in the world don’t have. I also think it really complimented my studies … first hand experience … now I can speak with more certainty.
What advice would you give a person who is planning on traveling to India?
Don’t go with any expectations! There is a different sort of mentality. We are really Americans, worried about organization, structure and deadlines. These things are not as important there as are relationships. For example, I would arrange to meet someone and they would show up 2½ hours late. It wasn’t always possible to maintain a schedule. I had to be flexible, patient and relaxed. Females have to dress modestly; we wore Indian clothes to blend in more. You have to be prepared for some shocking things such as child beggars.
I miss Indian food! I miss my Indian family!
Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
Oh man. I would like to go to graduate school. After that, perhaps teaching at the college level or working at an NGO, or doing research of some sort.
Please tell me about any additional memorable moments you had abroad.
My first meal with my host family was both funny and embarrassing. In India you can only eat with your right hand because the left is impure. I was served rice in a little bowl that I was supposed to spread over my plate to show that I had a substantial serving. If your food is spread over your plate, it looks like there is more. Without knowing this, I ate my rice out of the little bowl, which suggested to my host that I did not have enough to eat.
Another time, my host mother was trying to describe for me a friend who was a dancer. She compared her friend to a little elephant. I thought she meant that her friend was plump, and chuckled, but in India, an elephant is reverenced … considered beautiful and auspicious. It was a compliment.
What would you say to a prospective donor, to encourage his or her support of the Study Abroad Fund?
Study abroad is an invaluable experience that makes you more reflective and open minded. An opportunity that people should have, especially college students. Gets us out of our niche. I learned so much, not just about Indian culture, but also about myself. The study abroad experience fosters great relationships. I feel like my host sister became one of my best friends. I think this improves foreign relationships with Americans through me, because often the only exposure they may have is raunchy TV and cultural stereotypes. It felt sometimes like I was an ambassador. Just to hear different perspectives on your own culture is valuable, too. The war, American media – just to see the diversity of ideas around the world.
Did you receive financial assistance to help fund your study abroad experience? What difference did that make in your plans?
I had saved money for this, and my parents helped, but that extra $500 really did matter.

















































